Max Maisel, the college age son of Sports Illustrated writer Ivan Maisel, disappeared last month in Rochester and is presumed to have committed suicide by drowning.  The family held a memorial service for him last Friday.  His father posted his touching eulogy on Twitter today.

Among the humorous anecdotes and moments of parental pain, as the parent of a college freshman, this is the most frightening:  “No parent knows how a child lives at college. Clearly, the disaster we have on our hands is an indication of that. We didn’t recognize the downward spiral Max was in, and that is the burden that psychologists tell us we can’t carry. As much as we tried, as great a job as our friends and family tell us we did, it wasn’t enough.”

Give your children an extra hug tonight.  I will.